Wedding DJ Do Not Play List

Is It Rude To Have A “Do Not Play” List For My Wedding DJ?


So there you are, loving every second of your reception. Great times with family and friends, and the love of your life.

The atmosphere is wonderful. Billy Joel plays across the speakers, and smoothly transitions into Ed Sheeran’s “Thinking Out Loud”. You close your eyes and image dancing in the video itself. Everything is perfect.

Just when you think things couldn’t be any better… someone requests a song…




No matter how much planning you put in with your wedding DJ on the music that will be placed at your reception, leave it up to someone to play the worst possible song at the worst possible time.

Knowing this, having a “Do Not Play” list outlined with your wedding DJ is something you certainly should have. Any legitimate professional DJ will likely bring it up to you first (during the planning process prior to your reception.)

But, is it considered rude to do this? How should song requests be handled, that you do not want played at your reception? Should the DJ even take requests?


The Easy Solution – The DJ Does Not Take Song Requests

Having a “Do Not Play” list is certainly not considered “rude”. It is, after all, your wedding. Your wedding DJ should be accustomed to having this list.

Using the “Do Not Take Song Requests” approach eliminates all of the problems with poor song request choices. You’ll rely on your DJ to play music in the genre’s you prefer, or work from your pre-determined playlist of songs.

However, this does hinder any guests that would want to request a song. No one wants to be shot down by the “Song Nazi” DJ who refuses to take requests.

It certainly is an option, but it may not be the best one for everyone’s happiness.


Creating A “Do Not Play” List With Your Wedding DJ

In my experience, song requests from guests vary. Sometimes they come up to us to request a song, sometimes they do not. Either way, it’s a factor that you’ll want to consider. A “Do Not Play” list should be created regardless if you expect guests to make song requests or not.

I wouldn’t recommend spending a ton of time on this list, however. Keep it simple. You have plenty of other, more important, concerns to plan out for your reception.

The best advice is to list any specific songs or artists that come to mind immediately. From there, use generalizations if you have certain types of music you do not want played.

For example, you might tell your DJ “no line dances”. That will queue your DJ not to play songs such as the “Cha Cha Slide” or “Macarena”. You may say “No heavy metal”. You’re DJ will know that anything from Pantera won’t be suitable to play.

I did find several posts in forums that offered a unique, but possibly more complex, twist. You could have one list of “absolutely, positively do not play these” songs, and a second list of “only play these songs if someone requests them”. This approach could work well if there are songs you honestly would prefer not to hear, but would be OK with it of one of your guests requested it.

Finally, your wedding DJ should also know your general preferences of music, by genre. For example, look at the image below. It’s from our custom-build planning tool we developed. This information gives our DJ your true tastes in music, and guides them in selecting songs for the reception.  As you can see, we’d know that “Funkytown” wouldn’t be a good song choice to play:




What If Multiple People Request A Song On Your “Do Not Play” List?

Believe it or not, this can happen. From the example above, you may not want to hear the Cha Cha slide, but every one of your guests may request it. So, what now?

This is where an experienced wedding DJ (hint, hint… Fired Up! Entertainment… cough, cough) shows their value to you. During the planning process, we’ll know exactly how adamant you are about specific songs not to be played. If you ranted to us about hating the song, we’re certainly not going to play it. However, our DJ may ask you (or your day-of planner) about the situation to get confirmation. This approach ensures everyone has a wonderful time at your reception!


Wrapping Up…

A “Do Not Play” list for your wedding DJ is anything but rude. It’s a proper tool you should utilize to ensure the music played at your reception flows well, keeps everyone entertained, and keep the “dance floor killers” out of the mix.


How do you plan on handling song requests at your reception? Share your thoughts in the comments below!







Posted by DJ Salty D

DJ and co-owner of Fired Up! Entertainment

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